Parents are not always right
and parents wonder why some children are just full of rage... instead of taking the time to understand and respect children, some twisted parents expect respect despite disrespecting their kids... so sad. The video will speak for itself... we need to listen to children when they want to speak, and we need to hear them when we let them speak. This was way too intense for me.
http://www.whoisthemonkey.com/videos/23/son-slaps-mom-on-dr-phil
This definitely happens in our part of the world too. Lack of love and excessive love are both detrimental to a child's growth. Both result in either resentment or disrespect. Negligence, shouting etc are perceived as lack of love. I guess you would ask, what is excessive love? I'd say over-controlling, over-giving, talking more and listening less. That's negative love that results in negative consequences In the middle east, a lot of parents have this strong tendency to dismiss their children's thoughts, their ideas, their ambitions because they feel they know what is best for their child. In today's generation, this is defined as "disrespect" from the child's view. Parents can't even recognize their anger, and sometimes they do not even appreciate their feelings about who they really are or who they want to be or how they want to live their lives. In today's generation, they might as well not exist, and such parents should stop procreating, and instead, build a robot to their specifications. That way, the robot has no heart nor moods and will not rebel.
Parents in the Middle East actually believe they know it all, actually believe that children are their property, and actually believe they can mold them as they wish (believing they know what's best). This kind of love is paralyzing; some become resentful, some have no identity or the child just turns into a complete rebel.
I don't know much about kids in the US but I've seen and grew up with many in the Middle East, and that's my observation. There's an arabic saying that the mother loved her child so much that while she held the baby so tight; it suffocated and died. There's great wisdom in that saying. Time is changing and children are not the same like our generation. Life is a lot more complex, a lot more challenging, a lot of meltdowns around us, it doesn't get easier (not materialistically, or mentally or spiritually). With technology innovations, everything has changed and continues to change rapidly. There's a mass accessibility to infinite resources. The younger generation explore and learn many dimensions of life that wasn't available to us or our previous generations. They are growing at an age of innocence. We cannot undermine our future children. We cannot control them nor disrespect them.
http://www.whoisthemonkey.com/videos/23/son-slaps-mom-on-dr-phil
This definitely happens in our part of the world too. Lack of love and excessive love are both detrimental to a child's growth. Both result in either resentment or disrespect. Negligence, shouting etc are perceived as lack of love. I guess you would ask, what is excessive love? I'd say over-controlling, over-giving, talking more and listening less. That's negative love that results in negative consequences In the middle east, a lot of parents have this strong tendency to dismiss their children's thoughts, their ideas, their ambitions because they feel they know what is best for their child. In today's generation, this is defined as "disrespect" from the child's view. Parents can't even recognize their anger, and sometimes they do not even appreciate their feelings about who they really are or who they want to be or how they want to live their lives. In today's generation, they might as well not exist, and such parents should stop procreating, and instead, build a robot to their specifications. That way, the robot has no heart nor moods and will not rebel.
Parents in the Middle East actually believe they know it all, actually believe that children are their property, and actually believe they can mold them as they wish (believing they know what's best). This kind of love is paralyzing; some become resentful, some have no identity or the child just turns into a complete rebel.
I don't know much about kids in the US but I've seen and grew up with many in the Middle East, and that's my observation. There's an arabic saying that the mother loved her child so much that while she held the baby so tight; it suffocated and died. There's great wisdom in that saying. Time is changing and children are not the same like our generation. Life is a lot more complex, a lot more challenging, a lot of meltdowns around us, it doesn't get easier (not materialistically, or mentally or spiritually). With technology innovations, everything has changed and continues to change rapidly. There's a mass accessibility to infinite resources. The younger generation explore and learn many dimensions of life that wasn't available to us or our previous generations. They are growing at an age of innocence. We cannot undermine our future children. We cannot control them nor disrespect them.
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