some people are good with words

I don't think the ability to write has anything to do with the way we are raised. I also don't agree that just because you can't express it in words means you're tougher. I don't believe there's a correlation between ability vs experience. I think experience gives substance to words. For me, my substance doesn't have to be my personal experience, it can be anything I've witnessed, heard or read that moved me or shook my foundations. So for example, I can express your pain based on what I saw better than you could express it although you are the one experiencing the pain. I guess some people are good with words.